As you know, a well-laid start to business is 50% success. Marriage is not an exception to this, and therefore it should begin with proper spiritual preparation, which consists of the following:
1. Fasting-is abstinence in bodily life in order to exalt spiritual. Most of our time is devoted to the body and its "service". Fasting is designed to give priority to the spiritual: prayer, purity of thoughts, kindness of heart, and all that unites us with God. And this is achieved through not only abstinence in food and in love relations between the sexes (which themselves are unacceptable before marriage), but also by the combination of all ascetic means in the fight against passions, the most important of which is the curbing of one's own "I". This is the reason of all the evils originating from our hearts, which, as the prophet and psalmist King David said, "are countless." No good fasting is possible without the prayer and the sacraments of repentance and communion.
1.2. Prayer - is a means of our communication with God. Prayer may be voluminous, or it may be simple. The main thing is that it be sincere. In prayer, the main thing to remember is that you need to pray not with your tongue, but with your heart and mind. Prayer is work, and in order to facilitate this work, the Church gives us a model of clever and heartfelt prayer. Such samples for private use are placed in a prayer book - a book that contains prayers that have become a model in terms of the depth of its content. Using the prayer book unceasingly, we must give birth in our hearts to the model of heartfelt and deep prayer. For general use, prayers are combined in church services, without participation in which there will never be a complete spiritual life.
The purpose of prayer and fasting is to bring us closer to God and give us the opportunity to unite with Him, and this happens through our participation in the services and sacraments of the Church.
2. Confession. All those who take the sacrament of wedding seriously, must confess before the wedding. The confession, which is the final stage of repentance, means that a person, having repented of their sins, sincerely confesses them to God with the promise of correction and receives the forgiveness of these sins from God through the priest, and begins life from scratch. A repentant is required to repent one's sins, an intention to rectify one's life, faith in Christ, and hope for His mercy. Every confession should become, on the one hand, an eye on the past, and on the other hand, a program for the future deed, for struggle, for victory over oneself in the name of God and in the name of one's neighbor. We say: "Lord, I have come to open myself before You, to tell You about everything dark, unclean, gloomy, vicious that is in me; and I ask you to heal me. "Confession is the moment a person meets God, and the priest, as he himself tells people before confession, is only a witness.
3. Communion. Communion is the Sacrament in which the believer, under the guise of bread and wine, tastes the very Body and Blood of Christ for Eternal Life. He who partakes of the Body and Blood of Christ is intimately connected with Jesus Christ Himself and in Him becomes involved in Eternal Life. On the Sacrament of Communion in relation to Christian worship, it should be noted that this Sacrament is the main and essential part of Christian worship. Everyone who wishes to begin the Sacrament of Communion must test (open) his conscience before God and purify it by repentance of sins, which is facilitated by fasting and prayer. By tradition, the Communion is preceded by a 3-day fast.